A mantra is word or syllable used to concentrate the mind into the present moment so as to get you through a challenging time. Words that are deeply connected to beliefs inside that cause an emotional connection fusing the soul and the body.
My mantra became “Embrace the Chaos” but slowly realized that I needed more depth and so here is what “Embrace the Chaos” means for me:
1. Accept
Accept that life is uncertain, unpredictable, complicated and fast. Accept the impermanence and imperfections. Let’s stop trying to bring our narrative of order and perfection to life which has none.
There is no perfect job, no perfect person, perfect relationship or perfect life. There are jobs, people, relationships and life. Stop fighting change. Let go of your ego. Accept it all as it is…good, bad, great, short, up and down, awful, crazy and every way in between. IT IS WHAT IT IS. Life has always been in chaos…and gets more complex (entropy) so let’s get used to it. Accept that you cannot control life – you can only control YOURSELF…your own actions and your own thoughts. Not anyone else’s. Just your own. You have a choice…always have. To think differently. To take actions. To move. To use your own hands. To create. To innovate. To do. To live. LET GO of trying to control what comes on your path. Just control yourself. Let go of trying to force life to bend your way. Uncertainty never goes away…you just learn to cope with it. Accepting uncertainty in life is my first realization.
2. Don’t Overthink
Don’t Over Analyze. Don’t Over Plan. Don’t Try to Predict.
Stop trying to predict the future. You cannot. No matter how smart we are, we cannot accurately predict what will happen tomorrow. Everything is so complicated these days. All the information out there cannot show us the right path we should be taking. Things change constantly. It’s fine to think about pros and cons and the consequences of actions but too often our mind tries to get perfectly certain and gets lost in the process. We allow our mind to be distracted by what others think, say or do, being paralyzed by words casually thrown our way. Stress and tension is often caused by trying to bring certainty and predictability to real life where things are so fast and interconnected and complex that you simply cannot predict anything accurately. Once I realized that my predictions about a career, business, the economy or my life in the future, were not predictable, I got working on the things I could control today!
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3. Move Forward
You are still in charge of YOU. Take action. Control your own thoughts. Focus on your own actions. Say YES. Try anything. Participate. Dig deep. Get to work on your purpose in life. If you don’t know, get out and try something. Throw yourself into a specific cause. Get out of the house. Travel. Taking a trip changes your whole perspective. Take chances. Love. Live. Do.
You’ll feel better almost immediately because you’ll feel like you have control again. You’ll be in charge of you again. You’ll be on your way…somewhere. It’s better than sitting around and waiting for something to happen…you’ll be making things happen.
Life is up, down, good, great and every way in between…and it is short! In a chaotic environment, the walls around us are malleable offering great opportunities for success and happiness for anyone who jumps in and can adapt. You and I have just as good a shot as anyone at success in life because the playing field has been leveled. Anything can happen and everything is possible. A life path worth living is never straight and full of hurdles that you over come while learning and meeting some great people who bring real joy into your life. Each of us has a unique opportunity in our lives to make positive, valuable and long lasting contributions to the people around us. But you have to get off the fence and take action. You have to move forward in life, move forward at work, move forward in a relationship…because we are resilient and know how to navigate life’s challenges.
Read the full Embrace the Chaos Manifesto. The full manifesto explains the philosophy behind these 3 simple words that have helped me move forward in life.